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【日本樂散步】忟忟憎憎的愛情故事

 

Chion

 

習慣了「想什麼就說什麼」的北美文化,初到陌生的日本時,看了一套令我超級「忟憎」的劇集,滿腦問號「Why? Why? Why? 為什麼他們會如此做?!」不過,也多得這「黑部的太陽」的電視劇,推動我積極去認識及了解新隣居們,還到訪黑部山來個實地考察。

近日重看這劇,對當年那初來乍到、不熟悉本土民生又全情投入劇情的自己搖頭發笑,切切實實就是如傳道書所寫「心裏急躁惱怒,因為惱怒存在愚昧人的懷中」。還不知黑部水庫對日本人來說代表什麼,急急躁躁生惱怒的愚昧人,以有限的知識套入主觀的感情,立時對主角們那過分小我及虐心的愛情及事業觀,非常的不認同、不明解,難以接受,最後氣難平!其實日常待人處事,很多怒氣是不必要的,先快快地聽,了解了解前因後果,做個慢慢地動怒的智慧人比盲目發忟憎的愚昧人更明智。

「黑部的太陽」講及在深山險峻陡峭下,男人們拼搏、冒著生命危險通隧道、建黑部水壩,有口碑及非常勵志,充滿愛及勇氣的記錄劇。知道電視劇常有跨張成分,但記錄片或多或少會真實地反映民族的思想。二戰戰敗後,復興令經濟急速成長,水電異常供應不足,關西電力決定在海拔 1,500 的黑部高山峻嶺裏開建拱形水庫及水力發電廠,為期七年在 1963 年完成的世紀浩大工程,當時是世界第四、日本第一大的水庫,艱辛的工程有 171 位工作人員殉職。

演技精湛、扮演深資總工程師的男二主⻆被託付重任,把妻子及三個女兒留在城市生活,自己一人長年留守深山。過年過節不回家就算了,連得知因同愛畫畫而關係很親密的小女兒白血病離世前,也只見了短短「一」面就回工地,這父親有點不近人情。重看時才注意那幾分鐘斷斷續續日式父女日常的相處鏡頭,是在表達寂寞的小女兒相信並支持父親,她知道因黑部工程不容易,公司才選上忠實的父親前往統籌,也是為環境所迫。因這份體諒,至死也沒有怨父親不能伴她左右。死前還用想像力畫下黑部水壩,預祝還在迎戰大難題的父親通隧成功。

大女兒就和我這觀眾一樣忟憎,氣憤申訴為什麼不能告訴父親妹妹重病,母親回應她的是一巴掌。母親激動地說,她活得自豪因能支持丈夫完成建水壩的夢想,同丈夫一起在危機中為國家承擔責任,她長期孤獨地在後方支援守著家,暪著丈夫就是想讓他能心無旁騖全面投入工作。她不能原諒大女兒轉告丈夫小女兒病了,讓他要承受不能停工又要掛念家人的精神痛苦。心傷的母親含淚退場,留下突然明暸母親感受的呆然女兒。

唉,劇中的眾多人物們和身邊的隣人們一樣,含蓄是民族性格嗎?為什麼不能早點把真實的想法告訴別人,這「多為對方想,不要影響他人自己受苦就好」,這「說話不直截坦率而曲折婉轉」,總有點好心做壞事的感覺,容易生出很多的誤解及怨氣,人家又不是你肚子的蛔蟲,不說清楚誰能明白你所想,了解還是由坦誠溝通而開始。

大女兒和飾演負責挖隧道工程組的年輕工頭男主角雖分兩地彼此有情,不想放棄有情人的她遠道來到山上暗示地問「我要結婚了,你反對嗎?」男主角瞪著眼說「不反對」,我也瞪著眼說「你講大話!」鏡頭繼續發展,平靜下來的大女兒像是早猜到,他相對男女之愛,使命的愛更重,心知都是痛苦選擇。大女兒因妹妹想死前能看到她作新娘而不能再等他,就另嫁他人。她走後,他哭了,他的工作是要面對山崩危險的前線挖道,並要七年不回家長期留守工地,只好放棄最後機會而一生錯過她。男主角因職業關係一直相親不成功,看得通透的母親也直說與其婚後失望,倒不如婚前認清楚,找個能忍受作他的妻就是要長期獨守空閨。真是很難得遇到能明白他的有情人,多心痛如絞的「不反對」。

重看時,終於有點明白男主角的情懷。重重開墾困難同工們一車一車的離開,男主角還堅持到底不甘心如此放棄,選擇留下直到在隧道打通見到黑部山的太陽。因為年輕的男主角視通隧道如他曾以命相搏、終身難忘的打仗般,碰到困難就投降,如接受安全撤退,就迎來慘痛的戰敗。戰爭是高層上權者發起而受苦郤是黎民百姓,人民背負了戰敗的痛苦,水壩建成是男人們想弱勢的國家強大起來的悲願,自己的所愛所需放在最後;經歷過苦日子的女人們,自覺性犧牲自己去守護家庭。男兒為國使命重,情愛全可捨;女兒為愛全忍耐,一生全可獻。

未盡然認同男女主角們那隱晦犧牲自我成全大我的行為,因國家總能有人會守,你的家人只有你能守。了解到那時代的歷史背景後,開始理解主角們那放棄所愛的苦澀,氣難平被悲傷哀慟的情緒取替了,我也打通偏見的隧道見到黑部山的太陽。

現在遇到不明所以或未能認同的觀點時,生氣前已學著日本人多為對方想,不以自己的感情影響他人,但不明不白、婉轉含蓄的猜測,不是我的作風,還是會主動去問清楚,認真溝通一下。知識無所盡,了解還未深,先查明真相做個增長學問的智慧人。生悶氣影響健康,不值,不值。傳道書7:9 你不要心裏急躁惱怒、因為惱怒存在愚昧人的懷中。

 

喜樂 Joy

喜樂的心乃是良藥;憂傷的靈使骨枯乾。箴言 17:22
A cheerful heart is good medicine, but a crushed spirit dries up the bones. Proverbs 17:22

然而,我要因耶和華歡欣,因救我的 神喜樂。哈巴谷書 3:18
yet I will rejoice in the LORD, I will be joyful in God my Savior. Habakkuk 3:18

要常常喜樂,不住的禱告,凡事謝恩。帖撒羅尼迦前書 5:16-17
Rejoice always, pray continually, give thanks in all circumstances. 1 Thessalonians 5:16-17

饒恕 Forgiveness

主啊,你本為良善,樂意饒恕人,有豐盛的慈愛賜給凡求告你的人。詩篇 86:5
You, Lord, are forgiving and good, abounding in love to all who call to you. Psalm 86:5

你不要說:“我要以惡報惡”;要等候耶和華,他必拯救你。箴言 20:22
Do not say, “I’ll pay you back for this wrong!” Wait for the LORD, and he will avenge you. Proverbs 6:14

你們饒恕人的過犯,你們的天父也必饒恕你們的過犯;馬太福音 6:14
For if you forgive other people when they sin against you, your heavenly Father will also forgive you. Matthew 6:14

你們不饒恕人的過犯,你們的天父也必不饒恕你們的過犯。馬太福音 6:15
But if you do not forgive others their sins, your Father will not forgive your sins. Matthew 6:15

你們各人若不從心裡饒恕你的弟兄,我天父也要這樣待你們了。馬太福音 18:35
This is how my heavenly Father will treat each of you unless you forgive your brother or sister from your heart. Matthew 18:35

謙卑 Humility

敬畏耶和華是智慧的訓誨;尊榮以前,必有謙卑。箴言 15:33
Wisdom’s instruction is to fear the LORD, and humility comes before honor. Proverbs 15:33

敬畏耶和華心存謙卑,就得富有、尊榮、生命為賞賜。箴言 22:4
Humility is the fear of the LORD; its wages are riches and honor and life. Proverbs 22:4

凡事不可結黨,不可貪圖虛浮的榮耀;只要存心謙卑,各人看別人比自己強。腓立比書 2:3
Do nothing out of selfish ambition or vain conceit. Rather, in humility value others above yourselves. Philippians 2:3

但他賜更多的恩典,所以經上說:神阻擋驕傲的人,賜恩給謙卑的人。雅各書 4:6
But he gives us more grace. That is why Scripture says:“God opposes the proud but shows favor to the humble.” James 4:6

驕傲 Pride

驕傲來,羞恥也來;謙遜人卻有智慧。箴言 11:2
When pride comes, then comes disgrace, but with humility comes wisdom. Proverbs 11:2

驕傲只啟爭競;聽勸言的,卻有智慧。箴言 13:10
Do nothing out of selfish ambition or vain conceit. Rather, in humility value others above yourselves. Proverbs 13:10

驕傲在敗壞以先;狂心在跌倒之前。箴言 16:18
Pride goes before destruction, a haughty spirit before a fall. Proverbs 16:18

但他賜更多的恩典,所以經上說:神阻擋驕傲的人,賜恩給謙卑的人。雅各書 4:6
But he gives us more grace. That is why Scripture says:“God opposes the proud but shows favor to the humble.” James 4:6

忍耐 Patience

愚妄人怒氣全發;智慧人忍氣含怒。箴言 29:11
Fools give full vent to their rage, but the wise bring calm in the end. Proverbs 29:11

並且你們要為我的名,被眾人恨惡,惟有忍耐到底的,必然得救。馬可福音 13:13
Everyone will hate you because of me, but the one who stands firm to the end will be saved. Mark 13:13

不但如此,就是在患難中也是歡歡喜喜的。因為知道患難生忍耐。羅馬書 5:3
Not only so, but we also glory in our sufferings, because we know that suffering produces perseverance. Romans 5:3

我們行善,不可喪志;若不灰心,到了時候就要收成加拉太書 6:9
Let us not become weary in doing good, for at the proper time we will reap a harvest if we do not give up. Galatians 6:9

你們也當忍耐,堅固你們的心,因為主來的日子近了。雅各書 5:8
You too, be patient and stand firm, because the Lord’s coming is near. James 5:8

溫柔 Meekness

回答柔和,使怒消退;言語暴戾,觸動怒氣。箴言 15:1
A gentle answer turns away wrath, but a harsh word stirs up anger. Proverbs 15:1

溫柔的人有福了,因為他們必承受地土。馬太福音 5:5
Blessed are the meek, for they will inherit the earth. Matthew 5:5

用溫柔勸戒那抵擋的人;或者 神給他們悔改的心,可以明白真道。提摩太後書 2:25
Opponents must be gently instructed, in the hope that God will grant them repentance leading them to a knowledge of the truth. 2 Timothy 2:25

只要以裡面存著長久溫柔、安靜的心為妝飾;這在 神面前是極寶貴的。彼得前書 3:4
Rather, it should be that of your inner self, the unfading beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which is of great worth in God’s sight. 1 Peter 3:4

嫉妒 Envy

不要為作惡的心懷不平,也不要向那行不義的生出嫉妒。詩篇 37:1
Do not fret because of those who are evil or be envious of those who do wrong. Psalm 37:1

心中安靜是肉體的生命;嫉妒是骨中的朽爛。箴言 14:30
A heart at peace gives life to the body, but envy rots the bones. Proverbs 14:30

在何處有嫉妒、紛爭,就在何處有擾亂和各樣的壞事。雅各書 3:16
For where you have envy and selfish ambition, there you find disorder and every evil practice. James 3:16

生氣 Anger

當止住怒氣,離棄忿怒;不要心懷不平,以致作惡。詩篇 37:8
Refrain from anger and turn from wrath; do not fret—it leads only to evil. Psalm 37:8

好生氣的人,不可與他結交;暴怒的人,不可與他來往。箴言 22:24
Do not make friends with a hot-tempered person, do not associate with one easily angered. Proverbs 22:24

愚妄人怒氣全發;智慧人忍氣含怒。箴言 29:11
Fools give full vent to their rage, but the wise bring calm in the end. Proverbs 29:11

生氣卻不要犯罪.不可含怒到日落。以弗所書 4:26
In your anger do not sin: Do not let the sun go down while you are still angry. Ephesians 4:26

我親愛的弟兄們,這是你們所知道的,但你們各人要快快的聽,慢慢的說,慢慢的動怒,因為人的怒氣並不成就 神的義。雅各書 1:19,20
My dear brothers and sisters, take note of this: Everyone should be quick to listen, slow to speak and slow to become angry, because human anger does not produce the righteousness that God desires. James 1:19,20

災難 Calamity

謹守口與舌的、就保守自己免受災難。箴言 21:23
Those who guard their mouths and their tongues keep themselves from calamity. Proverbs 21:23

民要攻打民、國要攻打國、多處必有地震、饑荒.這都是災難的起頭。馬可福音 13:8
Nation will rise against nation, and kingdom against kingdom. There will be earthquakes in various places, and famines. These are the beginning of birth pains. Mark 13:8

憂愁 Worry

你們不要憂愁、因靠耶和華而得的喜樂是你們的力量。尼希米記 8:10
Do not grieve, for the joy of the LORD is your strength. Nehemiah 8:10

主雖使人憂愁, 還要照他諸般的慈愛發憐憫。耶利米哀歌 3:32
Though he brings grief, he will show compassion, so great is his unfailing love. Lamentations 3:32

凡勞苦擔重擔的人,可以到我這裡來,我就使你們得安息。馬太福音 11:28
Come to me, all you who are weary and burdened, and I will give you rest. Matthew 11:28

我留下平安給你們、我將我的平安賜給你們.我所賜的、不像世人所賜的.你們心裏不要憂愁、也不要膽怯。約翰福音 14:27
Peace I leave with you; my peace I give you. I do not give to you as the world gives. Do not let your hearts be troubled and do not be afraid. John 14:27

應當一無掛慮,只要凡事藉著禱告、祈求和感謝,將你們所要的告訴神。神所賜出人意外的平安,必在基督耶穌裡,保守你們的心懷意念。腓立比書 4:6,7
Do not be anxious about anything, but in every situation, by prayer and petition, with thanksgiving, present your requests to God. And the peace of God, which transcends all understanding, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus. Philippians 4:6,7

因此, 你們是大有喜樂, 但如今, 在百般的試煉中暫時憂愁。彼得前書 1:6
In all this you greatly rejoice, though now for a little while you may have had to suffer grief in all kinds of trials. 1 Peter 1:6

患難 Trouble, Suffering

義人多有苦難,但耶和華救他脫離這一切。詩篇 34:19
The righteous person may have many troubles, but the LORD delivers him from them all. Psalm 34:19

神是我們的避難所,是我們的力量,是我們在患難中隨時的幫助!詩篇 46:1
God is our refuge and strength, an ever-present help in trouble. Psalm 46:1

耶和華本為善,在患難的日子為人的保障,並且認得那些投靠他的人。那鴻書 1:7
The LORD is good, a refuge in times of trouble. He cares for those who trust in him. Nahum 1:7

為義受逼迫的人有福了,因為天國是他們的。馬太福音 5:10
Blessed are those who are persecuted because of righteousness, for theirs is the kingdom of heaven. Matthew 5:10

不但如此,就是在患難中,也是歡歡喜喜的。因為知道患難生忍耐。羅馬書 5:3
Not only so, but we also glory in our sufferings, because we know that suffering produces perseverance; Romans 5:3

我想現在的苦楚,若比將來要顯於我們的榮耀,就不足介意了。羅馬書 8:18
I consider that our present sufferings are not worth comparing with the glory that will be revealed in us. Romans 8:18

因為你們蒙恩,不但得以信服基督,並要為他受苦。腓立比書 1:29
For it has been granted to you on behalf of Christ not only to believe in him, but also to suffer for him. Philippians 1:29

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