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溫尼伯舉辦的恩愛夫婦營

 

阿諾弟兄

知道有恩愛夫婦營已經有十年了,我和太太的婚姻則一起走過了15年。回想起來,我和太太的婚姻中有很多陽光燦爛的日子,但隨時就可能立刻晴轉多雲,繼而電閃雷鳴,風雨飄搖。在十年前信主後,我們的婚姻狀況有所改觀,以前事無巨細的爭吵似乎減少了,但每隔一段時間總會出現一次地動山搖的爭戰,戰爭的規模往往能上升到使我們的婚姻命懸一線的程度。可以說我和太太在這 15 年的婚姻裡是痛並快樂著,內心始終對於我們婚姻的前景有著隱隱的擔心和說不出的恐懼。

聽教會的師母和參加過恩愛夫婦營的弟兄姐妹說起過參營經歷,他們的臉上都洋溢著幸福的光。我和太太一直都特別嚮往能尋求一劑能醫治我們婚姻癥結的靈丹妙藥,但世界上真的存在這一副既對症又有奇效的神藥嗎?

有!

抱著死馬當活馬醫的心態,我和太太于兩天前來到了恩愛夫婦營。我們立刻被三對遠道而來的帶領夫婦和一對本地的行政夫婦的熱情和愛所包裹住了。神的恩典和大能豐豐盛盛地融入了課程教材的字裡行間,家新的創辦者們藉著從神而來的智慧和感動將如何使夫妻二人通過仰望神,操練聖靈結出的果子,從而化干戈為玉帛,向彼此透明敞開而合二為一的方法凝聚到了一本薄薄的課程冊裡。帶領夫婦真情流露的以身說法,深深引起了我們的共鳴,在我們對於在基督裡成為合一夫婦憧憬嚮往的同時,也為自已未來幸福夫妻生活找到了榜樣和目標。而行政夫婦馬不停蹄地操勞,又保障了我們在大快朵頤的同時能全心盡意地經歷和享受這一美妙、恩典滿滿的恩愛夫婦營。

我的那一顆堅硬的心在基督裡被破碎了,結婚 15 年了才真正意識到我身邊的這位太太是神為我精雕玉琢而成,為我預備,陪伴我一生一世的最珍貴的伴侶。她是神白白賜給我的,但又如此珍貴,珍貴到我值得為她捨命!命都能舍,其他還有什麼放不下的呢!在夫婦營的第三天,我和太太在主的愛中被打碎,又被用水調成泥,回歸了神最初創造我們這一對夫婦的原始純真狀態---你中有我,我中有你。

三天兩夜的夫婦營帶給我和太太的驚喜和感動還有太多太多,值得我們用一生去回味和品嘗,在這裡就不一一劇透了,期待各位親身去經歷神的大能和奇妙。結營時,營員和帶領夫婦們抱在一起,跳在一起,久久不願分離,內心都充滿了平安、喜樂、信心和希望。我和太太的婚姻經歷了蛻變,我們眼前的婚姻圖景變得開闊深遠,鮮花盛開,陽光,雨露。我們腳下的土地變得堅實,溫暖。我們啟航開啟了婚姻的新篇章。

一木姊妹

感謝聖靈的恩典讓邱清泰博士和竹君師母編寫出這麼經典的《你儂我儂恩愛夫婦訓練課程》,同時揀選了合神心意的帶領夫婦和行政夫婦,靈活運用理論知識,自身經歷,親身向我們演繹了得神醫治的基督夫婦樣式。讓我們這些罪人蒙恩得醫治和救贖。

我和老公的婚姻關係,就好比一個破碎的花瓶,用五顏六色的膠布貼在了裂縫處。花瓶裡裝著鮮豔奪目的鮮花,在外人看來的是一片美麗祥和,那是我們出類拔萃的女兒和活潑可愛的兒子。而我們的花瓶不是今天漏水,就是明天添加新的裂痕。經歷了十四年痛苦的煎熬,無論從精力還是體力我都累了,倦了。最後抱著試試來的心態,我們來到了恩愛夫婦營,一進教室,我立刻被聖靈所感動和充滿。神給我們預備的婚姻沒有後門,只有天梯,看到了 PPT 中那張天梯的畫面,我剛硬的心一下子謙卑在十字架下。三天兩夜的課程深入淺出地剖析了家庭生活中的種種問題,例如:溝通藝術,解決衝突的技巧,面對原生家庭矛盾的衡量,以及我們以前根本不懂的婚姻法寶---存款和清垃圾,是提升我們婚姻生活質量和解決問題的最有效方法。

通過學習讓我真正認識到婚姻乃是上帝所設立的:一男一女,一夫一妻,一生一世。因此,人要離開父母與妻子連合,二人成為一體。夫妻關係和睦,關鍵在於我們是否能順服神,遵行神的話,禁止舌頭不出惡言。按上帝的旨意,回到上帝對婚姻家庭的原始設計。家是講愛的地方,不是講理的地方。先解決心情,再解決事情。凡事依靠神,仰望神,凡事相信,凡事盼望,凡事忍耐。

若有人在基督裡,他就是新造的人,舊事已過,都變成新的了。 -哥林多後書 5:17

(此婚姻篇由家庭更新協會加拿大加西分會供稿。在加拿大西部的大溫地區,該會將舉辦多次恩愛夫婦營和進深營(二級)的營會。下一次國語營會是在 2019 年 11 月 1 至 3 日,進深營是在 11 月 15-17 日。地點是在美國華盛頓州的 Cedar Springs,營費每對加元 $680,或是位於 Chilliwack 的 Charis Camp,每對加元 $570。而在東部大多倫多地區,將於 2019 年 10 月以及 11 舉辦國粵語的恩愛夫婦營,地點都在大多倫多地區,每對加元 $550。如果能提早 2 個月報名並繳齊營費,可以享受 $30 的價格優惠。此外在卡加利,渥太華及滿地可等地都有營會,有興趣參加者請盡早報名。在各個地區,陸續開始有為牧者專門預備的營會,歡迎牧者和宣教士免費參加。查詢詳情,請聯絡溫哥華辦公室(604) 875-0203 或瀏覽家新網頁www.cffc.ca 下載報名表。"爲主得萬家,家家爲主活" )

 

喜樂 Joy

喜樂的心乃是良藥;憂傷的靈使骨枯乾。箴言 17:22
A cheerful heart is good medicine, but a crushed spirit dries up the bones. Proverbs 17:22

然而,我要因耶和華歡欣,因救我的 神喜樂。哈巴谷書 3:18
yet I will rejoice in the LORD, I will be joyful in God my Savior. Habakkuk 3:18

要常常喜樂,不住的禱告,凡事謝恩。帖撒羅尼迦前書 5:16-17
Rejoice always, pray continually, give thanks in all circumstances. 1 Thessalonians 5:16-17

饒恕 Forgiveness

主啊,你本為良善,樂意饒恕人,有豐盛的慈愛賜給凡求告你的人。詩篇 86:5
You, Lord, are forgiving and good, abounding in love to all who call to you. Psalm 86:5

你不要說:“我要以惡報惡”;要等候耶和華,他必拯救你。箴言 20:22
Do not say, “I’ll pay you back for this wrong!” Wait for the LORD, and he will avenge you. Proverbs 6:14

你們饒恕人的過犯,你們的天父也必饒恕你們的過犯;馬太福音 6:14
For if you forgive other people when they sin against you, your heavenly Father will also forgive you. Matthew 6:14

你們不饒恕人的過犯,你們的天父也必不饒恕你們的過犯。馬太福音 6:15
But if you do not forgive others their sins, your Father will not forgive your sins. Matthew 6:15

你們各人若不從心裡饒恕你的弟兄,我天父也要這樣待你們了。馬太福音 18:35
This is how my heavenly Father will treat each of you unless you forgive your brother or sister from your heart. Matthew 18:35

謙卑 Humility

敬畏耶和華是智慧的訓誨;尊榮以前,必有謙卑。箴言 15:33
Wisdom’s instruction is to fear the LORD, and humility comes before honor. Proverbs 15:33

敬畏耶和華心存謙卑,就得富有、尊榮、生命為賞賜。箴言 22:4
Humility is the fear of the LORD; its wages are riches and honor and life. Proverbs 22:4

凡事不可結黨,不可貪圖虛浮的榮耀;只要存心謙卑,各人看別人比自己強。腓立比書 2:3
Do nothing out of selfish ambition or vain conceit. Rather, in humility value others above yourselves. Philippians 2:3

但他賜更多的恩典,所以經上說:神阻擋驕傲的人,賜恩給謙卑的人。雅各書 4:6
But he gives us more grace. That is why Scripture says:“God opposes the proud but shows favor to the humble.” James 4:6

驕傲 Pride

驕傲來,羞恥也來;謙遜人卻有智慧。箴言 11:2
When pride comes, then comes disgrace, but with humility comes wisdom. Proverbs 11:2

驕傲只啟爭競;聽勸言的,卻有智慧。箴言 13:10
Do nothing out of selfish ambition or vain conceit. Rather, in humility value others above yourselves. Proverbs 13:10

驕傲在敗壞以先;狂心在跌倒之前。箴言 16:18
Pride goes before destruction, a haughty spirit before a fall. Proverbs 16:18

但他賜更多的恩典,所以經上說:神阻擋驕傲的人,賜恩給謙卑的人。雅各書 4:6
But he gives us more grace. That is why Scripture says:“God opposes the proud but shows favor to the humble.” James 4:6

忍耐 Patience

愚妄人怒氣全發;智慧人忍氣含怒。箴言 29:11
Fools give full vent to their rage, but the wise bring calm in the end. Proverbs 29:11

並且你們要為我的名,被眾人恨惡,惟有忍耐到底的,必然得救。馬可福音 13:13
Everyone will hate you because of me, but the one who stands firm to the end will be saved. Mark 13:13

不但如此,就是在患難中也是歡歡喜喜的。因為知道患難生忍耐。羅馬書 5:3
Not only so, but we also glory in our sufferings, because we know that suffering produces perseverance. Romans 5:3

我們行善,不可喪志;若不灰心,到了時候就要收成加拉太書 6:9
Let us not become weary in doing good, for at the proper time we will reap a harvest if we do not give up. Galatians 6:9

你們也當忍耐,堅固你們的心,因為主來的日子近了。雅各書 5:8
You too, be patient and stand firm, because the Lord’s coming is near. James 5:8

溫柔 Meekness

回答柔和,使怒消退;言語暴戾,觸動怒氣。箴言 15:1
A gentle answer turns away wrath, but a harsh word stirs up anger. Proverbs 15:1

溫柔的人有福了,因為他們必承受地土。馬太福音 5:5
Blessed are the meek, for they will inherit the earth. Matthew 5:5

用溫柔勸戒那抵擋的人;或者 神給他們悔改的心,可以明白真道。提摩太後書 2:25
Opponents must be gently instructed, in the hope that God will grant them repentance leading them to a knowledge of the truth. 2 Timothy 2:25

只要以裡面存著長久溫柔、安靜的心為妝飾;這在 神面前是極寶貴的。彼得前書 3:4
Rather, it should be that of your inner self, the unfading beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which is of great worth in God’s sight. 1 Peter 3:4

嫉妒 Envy

不要為作惡的心懷不平,也不要向那行不義的生出嫉妒。詩篇 37:1
Do not fret because of those who are evil or be envious of those who do wrong. Psalm 37:1

心中安靜是肉體的生命;嫉妒是骨中的朽爛。箴言 14:30
A heart at peace gives life to the body, but envy rots the bones. Proverbs 14:30

在何處有嫉妒、紛爭,就在何處有擾亂和各樣的壞事。雅各書 3:16
For where you have envy and selfish ambition, there you find disorder and every evil practice. James 3:16

生氣 Anger

當止住怒氣,離棄忿怒;不要心懷不平,以致作惡。詩篇 37:8
Refrain from anger and turn from wrath; do not fret—it leads only to evil. Psalm 37:8

好生氣的人,不可與他結交;暴怒的人,不可與他來往。箴言 22:24
Do not make friends with a hot-tempered person, do not associate with one easily angered. Proverbs 22:24

愚妄人怒氣全發;智慧人忍氣含怒。箴言 29:11
Fools give full vent to their rage, but the wise bring calm in the end. Proverbs 29:11

生氣卻不要犯罪.不可含怒到日落。以弗所書 4:26
In your anger do not sin: Do not let the sun go down while you are still angry. Ephesians 4:26

我親愛的弟兄們,這是你們所知道的,但你們各人要快快的聽,慢慢的說,慢慢的動怒,因為人的怒氣並不成就 神的義。雅各書 1:19,20
My dear brothers and sisters, take note of this: Everyone should be quick to listen, slow to speak and slow to become angry, because human anger does not produce the righteousness that God desires. James 1:19,20

災難 Calamity

謹守口與舌的、就保守自己免受災難。箴言 21:23
Those who guard their mouths and their tongues keep themselves from calamity. Proverbs 21:23

民要攻打民、國要攻打國、多處必有地震、饑荒.這都是災難的起頭。馬可福音 13:8
Nation will rise against nation, and kingdom against kingdom. There will be earthquakes in various places, and famines. These are the beginning of birth pains. Mark 13:8

憂愁 Worry

你們不要憂愁、因靠耶和華而得的喜樂是你們的力量。尼希米記 8:10
Do not grieve, for the joy of the LORD is your strength. Nehemiah 8:10

主雖使人憂愁, 還要照他諸般的慈愛發憐憫。耶利米哀歌 3:32
Though he brings grief, he will show compassion, so great is his unfailing love. Lamentations 3:32

凡勞苦擔重擔的人,可以到我這裡來,我就使你們得安息。馬太福音 11:28
Come to me, all you who are weary and burdened, and I will give you rest. Matthew 11:28

我留下平安給你們、我將我的平安賜給你們.我所賜的、不像世人所賜的.你們心裏不要憂愁、也不要膽怯。約翰福音 14:27
Peace I leave with you; my peace I give you. I do not give to you as the world gives. Do not let your hearts be troubled and do not be afraid. John 14:27

應當一無掛慮,只要凡事藉著禱告、祈求和感謝,將你們所要的告訴神。神所賜出人意外的平安,必在基督耶穌裡,保守你們的心懷意念。腓立比書 4:6,7
Do not be anxious about anything, but in every situation, by prayer and petition, with thanksgiving, present your requests to God. And the peace of God, which transcends all understanding, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus. Philippians 4:6,7

因此, 你們是大有喜樂, 但如今, 在百般的試煉中暫時憂愁。彼得前書 1:6
In all this you greatly rejoice, though now for a little while you may have had to suffer grief in all kinds of trials. 1 Peter 1:6

患難 Trouble, Suffering

義人多有苦難,但耶和華救他脫離這一切。詩篇 34:19
The righteous person may have many troubles, but the LORD delivers him from them all. Psalm 34:19

神是我們的避難所,是我們的力量,是我們在患難中隨時的幫助!詩篇 46:1
God is our refuge and strength, an ever-present help in trouble. Psalm 46:1

耶和華本為善,在患難的日子為人的保障,並且認得那些投靠他的人。那鴻書 1:7
The LORD is good, a refuge in times of trouble. He cares for those who trust in him. Nahum 1:7

為義受逼迫的人有福了,因為天國是他們的。馬太福音 5:10
Blessed are those who are persecuted because of righteousness, for theirs is the kingdom of heaven. Matthew 5:10

不但如此,就是在患難中,也是歡歡喜喜的。因為知道患難生忍耐。羅馬書 5:3
Not only so, but we also glory in our sufferings, because we know that suffering produces perseverance; Romans 5:3

我想現在的苦楚,若比將來要顯於我們的榮耀,就不足介意了。羅馬書 8:18
I consider that our present sufferings are not worth comparing with the glory that will be revealed in us. Romans 8:18

因為你們蒙恩,不但得以信服基督,並要為他受苦。腓立比書 1:29
For it has been granted to you on behalf of Christ not only to believe in him, but also to suffer for him. Philippians 1:29

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