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【教養兒女】交友不慎--禍殃子孫

 

我們單單在舊約聖經裡面的家庭,就看見不少的父親,因為在家裡面或者事業上沒有堅守聖經的原則,以為自己心胸寬大,跟不屬神的人交往,甚至於合作。他自己對神的心態倒還是專一的。約沙法就是一位這樣的好人﹐他幾次跟亞哈家合作,都搞得一塌糊涂,僅僅得以逃命,神也眷顧他﹐因他專心尋求神,一次一次地救拔了他。他無可救拔的大錯卻是在他家裡面。他為他的長子約蘭娶了亞哈和耶洗別的女兒亞他利雅﹐這個毒根一直潛伏在約沙法的家裡,到約沙法死了之後才顯現出來。

多少父母親以為自己家裡信主的傳統夠強,娶了一個沒有信主的媳婦,滿有把握地,以為可以影響媳婦信主。這種父母多數是德高望重,有一點錢財地位的人。媳婦過門之後自然可以奉行其事地跟著走﹐心底裡卻不一定是這樣﹐甚至於會鄙視這一家人信耶穌並沒有原則。這麼無關重要的信仰,她是不會接受的。很自然的,她的影響會在她的丈夫身上。在她兒子身上,就更加不必說了。不知不覺地,這孩子從小所受的影響就不是敬畏神的態度。她們兩夫妻之間的關係,也不會完全建立在神身上。

妥善安排後事

約沙法辦事精明,連他的後事也不例外。「約沙法與他列祖同睡,葬在大衛城他列祖的墳地裡。他兒子約蘭接續他作王。約蘭有幾個兄弟,就是約沙法的兒子亞撒利雅,耶歇,撒迦利雅,亞撒利雅,米迦勒,示法提雅。這都是猶大王約沙法的兒子。他們的父親將許多金銀,財寶,和猶大地的堅固城賜給他們。但將國賜給約蘭,因為他是長子。約蘭興起坐他父的位,奮勇自強,就用刀殺了他的眾兄弟和以色列的幾個首領。」〔歷代志下21:1-4〕

約沙法為他的兒子們已經有安排﹐哪裡知道這個長子竟然一上任,就把他的眾兄弟和那些不支持他的首領都殺了。聖經說:「他行以色列諸王的道,與亞哈家一樣。因他娶了亞哈的女兒為妻,行耶和華眼中看為惡的事。」(21:6)約沙法苦心的安排,一點都沒有用。約蘭對自己的兄弟那麼凶殘,自然對神也不敬虔。「他又在猶大諸山建筑邱壇,使耶路撒冷的居民行邪淫,誘惑猶大人。」(21:11)雖然如此,神還是透過先知以利亞給他警告:

「先知以利亞達信與約蘭說,耶和華你祖大衛的神如此說,因為你不行你父約沙法和猶大王亞撒的道,乃行以色列諸王的道,使猶大人和耶路撒冷的居民行邪淫,像亞哈家一樣,又殺了你父家比你好的諸兄弟。故此,耶和華降大災與你的百姓和你的妻子、兒女,並你一切所有的。你的腸子必患病,日加沉重,以致你的腸子墜落下來。」(21:12-15)

這一切都應驗在約蘭身上了。在猶大列王中沒有一位王像約蘭死得那麼可憐的。聖經最後還要加上一句話:「他去世無人思慕」(21:20)。自然約蘭需要負擔他自己的責任,但是為什麼他行亞哈家的道?完全是因為約沙法拿兒子終身的幸福,來搞小外交造成的!但是亞哈家的毒素在大衛家,並沒有因著約蘭之死而結束﹐更厲害的還在後頭!

滅門之禍

約蘭死後,他留下唯一的兒子就是亞哈謝。《歷代志下》22章只有12節,描寫了亞哈謝短短一年的執政,沒有一句好話。自然,他的禍根就是他的母親,亞他利雅,暗利的孫女,亞哈和耶洗別的女兒,約蘭的妻子。約蘭雖然就是行亞哈家的道,但是約蘭在生的時候,聖經並沒有提到亞他利雅有什麼大事情要幹。約蘭一死了,她的影響明顯地,加在她這個絕無僅有的兒子身上。22章一連提了三次亞哈謝行亞哈家的道,因為有亞哈家的人為他主謀,那就是亞他利雅,他的母親。

以前當我讀到耶戶滅亞哈家的時候,看到耶戶也毫不留情地把亞哈謝和他的眾侄兒都殺了,我當時覺得耶戶有一點過分。但是後來想一想,其實亞哈謝和他的侄兒們,雖然是猶大的王族,但是也是亞哈的外孫﹐都算是亞哈家的人﹐和亞哈家一同滅亡,一點都不過分。接下去,亞他利雅竟然凶殘到要殺盡她自己的子孫,為的是要滿足自己當一下女王的慾望。若不是耶和華的憐憫,為大衛家留下燈光,小小的約亞施,猶大王族、大衛家幾乎滅門!這個大災的罪魁,就是約沙法!

分別為聖

所以聖經再三地警告我們要分別為聖﹐最大的原因,其實為著我們好,好叫我們有保護。神對他的選民,不斷地有呼聲:「我民哪,你們要從巴比倫中逃走,從迦勒底人之地出去,要像羊群前面走的公山羊。」(耶利米書50:8)又說:「你們要從巴比倫中逃奔,各救自己的性命﹐不要陷在她的罪孽中一同滅亡。因為這是耶和華報仇的時候,祂必向巴比倫施行報應。」(耶利米書51:6)

自古以來,當聖潔的子民和不屬神的百姓結親的時候,攔阻邪惡的力量就沒有了﹐神的保護也離開了。就是一位那麼好的王,是行耶和華眼中看為善的約沙法,因為在關係上不謹慎,雖然他自己還是專心跟從神的,也得到神的恩待,但是他的不小心,或者說不看重分別為聖的原則,竟然害了他的兒女。我這一輩子已經見到不少這樣的個案。父母親們,自己縱然是敬虔侍奉神的,孩子們的婚姻一定從小要教導清楚,信與不信的不能同負一軛。更不要自我欺騙地,以為結了婚之後,再帶那位不信的信主﹐也不要洋洋得意﹐以為自己很大方。結果受害的是自己,並且禍殃子孫。

 

喜樂 Joy

喜樂的心乃是良藥;憂傷的靈使骨枯乾。箴言 17:22
A cheerful heart is good medicine, but a crushed spirit dries up the bones. Proverbs 17:22

然而,我要因耶和華歡欣,因救我的 神喜樂。哈巴谷書 3:18
yet I will rejoice in the LORD, I will be joyful in God my Savior. Habakkuk 3:18

要常常喜樂,不住的禱告,凡事謝恩。帖撒羅尼迦前書 5:16-17
Rejoice always, pray continually, give thanks in all circumstances. 1 Thessalonians 5:16-17

饒恕 Forgiveness

主啊,你本為良善,樂意饒恕人,有豐盛的慈愛賜給凡求告你的人。詩篇 86:5
You, Lord, are forgiving and good, abounding in love to all who call to you. Psalm 86:5

你不要說:“我要以惡報惡”;要等候耶和華,他必拯救你。箴言 20:22
Do not say, “I’ll pay you back for this wrong!” Wait for the LORD, and he will avenge you. Proverbs 6:14

你們饒恕人的過犯,你們的天父也必饒恕你們的過犯;馬太福音 6:14
For if you forgive other people when they sin against you, your heavenly Father will also forgive you. Matthew 6:14

你們不饒恕人的過犯,你們的天父也必不饒恕你們的過犯。馬太福音 6:15
But if you do not forgive others their sins, your Father will not forgive your sins. Matthew 6:15

你們各人若不從心裡饒恕你的弟兄,我天父也要這樣待你們了。馬太福音 18:35
This is how my heavenly Father will treat each of you unless you forgive your brother or sister from your heart. Matthew 18:35

謙卑 Humility

敬畏耶和華是智慧的訓誨;尊榮以前,必有謙卑。箴言 15:33
Wisdom’s instruction is to fear the LORD, and humility comes before honor. Proverbs 15:33

敬畏耶和華心存謙卑,就得富有、尊榮、生命為賞賜。箴言 22:4
Humility is the fear of the LORD; its wages are riches and honor and life. Proverbs 22:4

凡事不可結黨,不可貪圖虛浮的榮耀;只要存心謙卑,各人看別人比自己強。腓立比書 2:3
Do nothing out of selfish ambition or vain conceit. Rather, in humility value others above yourselves. Philippians 2:3

但他賜更多的恩典,所以經上說:神阻擋驕傲的人,賜恩給謙卑的人。雅各書 4:6
But he gives us more grace. That is why Scripture says:“God opposes the proud but shows favor to the humble.” James 4:6

驕傲 Pride

驕傲來,羞恥也來;謙遜人卻有智慧。箴言 11:2
When pride comes, then comes disgrace, but with humility comes wisdom. Proverbs 11:2

驕傲只啟爭競;聽勸言的,卻有智慧。箴言 13:10
Do nothing out of selfish ambition or vain conceit. Rather, in humility value others above yourselves. Proverbs 13:10

驕傲在敗壞以先;狂心在跌倒之前。箴言 16:18
Pride goes before destruction, a haughty spirit before a fall. Proverbs 16:18

但他賜更多的恩典,所以經上說:神阻擋驕傲的人,賜恩給謙卑的人。雅各書 4:6
But he gives us more grace. That is why Scripture says:“God opposes the proud but shows favor to the humble.” James 4:6

忍耐 Patience

愚妄人怒氣全發;智慧人忍氣含怒。箴言 29:11
Fools give full vent to their rage, but the wise bring calm in the end. Proverbs 29:11

並且你們要為我的名,被眾人恨惡,惟有忍耐到底的,必然得救。馬可福音 13:13
Everyone will hate you because of me, but the one who stands firm to the end will be saved. Mark 13:13

不但如此,就是在患難中也是歡歡喜喜的。因為知道患難生忍耐。羅馬書 5:3
Not only so, but we also glory in our sufferings, because we know that suffering produces perseverance. Romans 5:3

我們行善,不可喪志;若不灰心,到了時候就要收成加拉太書 6:9
Let us not become weary in doing good, for at the proper time we will reap a harvest if we do not give up. Galatians 6:9

你們也當忍耐,堅固你們的心,因為主來的日子近了。雅各書 5:8
You too, be patient and stand firm, because the Lord’s coming is near. James 5:8

溫柔 Meekness

回答柔和,使怒消退;言語暴戾,觸動怒氣。箴言 15:1
A gentle answer turns away wrath, but a harsh word stirs up anger. Proverbs 15:1

溫柔的人有福了,因為他們必承受地土。馬太福音 5:5
Blessed are the meek, for they will inherit the earth. Matthew 5:5

用溫柔勸戒那抵擋的人;或者 神給他們悔改的心,可以明白真道。提摩太後書 2:25
Opponents must be gently instructed, in the hope that God will grant them repentance leading them to a knowledge of the truth. 2 Timothy 2:25

只要以裡面存著長久溫柔、安靜的心為妝飾;這在 神面前是極寶貴的。彼得前書 3:4
Rather, it should be that of your inner self, the unfading beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which is of great worth in God’s sight. 1 Peter 3:4

嫉妒 Envy

不要為作惡的心懷不平,也不要向那行不義的生出嫉妒。詩篇 37:1
Do not fret because of those who are evil or be envious of those who do wrong. Psalm 37:1

心中安靜是肉體的生命;嫉妒是骨中的朽爛。箴言 14:30
A heart at peace gives life to the body, but envy rots the bones. Proverbs 14:30

在何處有嫉妒、紛爭,就在何處有擾亂和各樣的壞事。雅各書 3:16
For where you have envy and selfish ambition, there you find disorder and every evil practice. James 3:16

生氣 Anger

當止住怒氣,離棄忿怒;不要心懷不平,以致作惡。詩篇 37:8
Refrain from anger and turn from wrath; do not fret—it leads only to evil. Psalm 37:8

好生氣的人,不可與他結交;暴怒的人,不可與他來往。箴言 22:24
Do not make friends with a hot-tempered person, do not associate with one easily angered. Proverbs 22:24

愚妄人怒氣全發;智慧人忍氣含怒。箴言 29:11
Fools give full vent to their rage, but the wise bring calm in the end. Proverbs 29:11

生氣卻不要犯罪.不可含怒到日落。以弗所書 4:26
In your anger do not sin: Do not let the sun go down while you are still angry. Ephesians 4:26

我親愛的弟兄們,這是你們所知道的,但你們各人要快快的聽,慢慢的說,慢慢的動怒,因為人的怒氣並不成就 神的義。雅各書 1:19,20
My dear brothers and sisters, take note of this: Everyone should be quick to listen, slow to speak and slow to become angry, because human anger does not produce the righteousness that God desires. James 1:19,20

災難 Calamity

謹守口與舌的、就保守自己免受災難。箴言 21:23
Those who guard their mouths and their tongues keep themselves from calamity. Proverbs 21:23

民要攻打民、國要攻打國、多處必有地震、饑荒.這都是災難的起頭。馬可福音 13:8
Nation will rise against nation, and kingdom against kingdom. There will be earthquakes in various places, and famines. These are the beginning of birth pains. Mark 13:8

憂愁 Worry

你們不要憂愁、因靠耶和華而得的喜樂是你們的力量。尼希米記 8:10
Do not grieve, for the joy of the LORD is your strength. Nehemiah 8:10

主雖使人憂愁, 還要照他諸般的慈愛發憐憫。耶利米哀歌 3:32
Though he brings grief, he will show compassion, so great is his unfailing love. Lamentations 3:32

凡勞苦擔重擔的人,可以到我這裡來,我就使你們得安息。馬太福音 11:28
Come to me, all you who are weary and burdened, and I will give you rest. Matthew 11:28

我留下平安給你們、我將我的平安賜給你們.我所賜的、不像世人所賜的.你們心裏不要憂愁、也不要膽怯。約翰福音 14:27
Peace I leave with you; my peace I give you. I do not give to you as the world gives. Do not let your hearts be troubled and do not be afraid. John 14:27

應當一無掛慮,只要凡事藉著禱告、祈求和感謝,將你們所要的告訴神。神所賜出人意外的平安,必在基督耶穌裡,保守你們的心懷意念。腓立比書 4:6,7
Do not be anxious about anything, but in every situation, by prayer and petition, with thanksgiving, present your requests to God. And the peace of God, which transcends all understanding, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus. Philippians 4:6,7

因此, 你們是大有喜樂, 但如今, 在百般的試煉中暫時憂愁。彼得前書 1:6
In all this you greatly rejoice, though now for a little while you may have had to suffer grief in all kinds of trials. 1 Peter 1:6

患難 Trouble, Suffering

義人多有苦難,但耶和華救他脫離這一切。詩篇 34:19
The righteous person may have many troubles, but the LORD delivers him from them all. Psalm 34:19

神是我們的避難所,是我們的力量,是我們在患難中隨時的幫助!詩篇 46:1
God is our refuge and strength, an ever-present help in trouble. Psalm 46:1

耶和華本為善,在患難的日子為人的保障,並且認得那些投靠他的人。那鴻書 1:7
The LORD is good, a refuge in times of trouble. He cares for those who trust in him. Nahum 1:7

為義受逼迫的人有福了,因為天國是他們的。馬太福音 5:10
Blessed are those who are persecuted because of righteousness, for theirs is the kingdom of heaven. Matthew 5:10

不但如此,就是在患難中,也是歡歡喜喜的。因為知道患難生忍耐。羅馬書 5:3
Not only so, but we also glory in our sufferings, because we know that suffering produces perseverance; Romans 5:3

我想現在的苦楚,若比將來要顯於我們的榮耀,就不足介意了。羅馬書 8:18
I consider that our present sufferings are not worth comparing with the glory that will be revealed in us. Romans 8:18

因為你們蒙恩,不但得以信服基督,並要為他受苦。腓立比書 1:29
For it has been granted to you on behalf of Christ not only to believe in him, but also to suffer for him. Philippians 1:29

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